k so im 14 going into ninth grade and i’ve never had a real bra 
i think i really need one before school starts in a few weeks but i have no idea how to ask my mom.
im really shy and feel uncomfortable talking abotu these things.
ALL my friends wear bras and i feel really stupid and embarassed not wearin one
im sort of waiting for my mom to ask me, but its taking too long and i want some before school starts. i feel like the only 14 year old that doesnt wear one
all i feel comfortable wearing is the little self bras that are built in to tank tops, and my mom knows that. it looks fine, but i really want a real one because it might make me look a little bigger. the measurements around my chest in 31 inches. is that normal? what should i say to my mom? what do you think she will say?
thank you so much 
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The question is do you need a bra? If you need one, then you have to get one. If you really don’t need one, which is rare, then don’t wear one.
Just ask your mom like “mom, I need a bra before school starts” and see what she says. Don’t worry about feeling shy to your mom, she’s your mom, who could understand you better? She could get you some when you’re back to school shopping.
Those self bras in tank tops work fine too if your breast size is small, which is your case.
If you want to get a bra, get the size 34A, I think based on your chest measurements, that should be a good size. My size is 34B and I’m almost 15 so I would say that’s a normal size.
Your mom probably doesn’t want to admit that you are growing up. Have you gone shopping for school clothes and supplies yet? A good time to bring it up would be when it’s just the two of you going out shopping. Just say something like, “Mom, I think I need to start wearing a bra because I feel uncomfortable without one” or “Can we take a look at bras when we’re at the store today?”. It will probably be a little embarrassing, but it will be okay. Good luck.
When I asked my mom for a bra, she simply said ‘Sure honey, Im proud of you for talking to me about this’. The worst she could say is no!http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce…
Is a bra I would recommend, probably get a size 32AA or 32A.
Its definitely time to get a real bra. Its not healthy for your breasts to not be supposrted properly, especially if you are walking or excersizing a lot (which you will be doing at school). I know it feels awkward, but you just have to do it. I did it with my mom. I just said “mom shouldnt I get a bra now?” and then tell her what you just told us. Good luck.
Is there any way that you could go shopping with a friend? If you want to tell your mom I would just tell her that you feel uncomfortable w/o one. Its a normal feeling for a girl. I had to have this same convo with my mom when I was a little younger than you. Simply let her know that you feel like you need one because you are uncomfortable….surely she’ll understand.
It is normal. You shouldn’t be shy or embarrassed! Your growing up, and becoming more mature. Just ask your mom to buy you a bra and tell her your story. And your not the only 14 year old. I bet there’s more people that have the same problem.
Hope this helps!
Josh D
i think your mom will be happy you talk to this about her.. although your uncomfortable…just come out and say it…mom i want to go bra shopping i think its about time i start wearing them will you go with me? seriously what the worse thing that can happen? shes not gonna say no….your a woman.
i know this might sound wierd but if you have her mobile number ( i am assuming you have a mobile/cell phone) then text her and ask
its random but it saves the embarressment of a face to face 
Just go and ask your mom. Approach her in a good mood and be honest with her. I’m a 40 in. bust and have been wearing a bra since 4th grade. just ask.
Just tell her you need like two or three more bras because your starting highscool and you need one so badly so she will understand and just get one at walmart or kmart
13 in the same position =/….when I go back to school shopping I’m just going to say “Mom, can I get a bra because those tank top things are to tight at the top??”
good luck =)
Just be honest with your mum, it’s a little embarrassing but it’s best! she’ll know exactly what you’re going through and you can get it sorted quickly
Yeah you should get one! and since your in HS now you might be playing a sport or doing PE or something that you have to change out for and that would be embaressing if you had to change in front of other girls.
When your buying clothes with her and your passing by the bras and underwears just be like hey mom lets look at these.
or you and your friends go to the mall and go into a department store and where all the bras are ask the lady if she could measure you for the right one. Once you get your measurments you can go look at the bras there and get one.
Good luck!!
hi
dont be embaressed ( though i know its hard)
remember your mom has been through it all before, chose a casual moment when you are alone together and mention you want to wear a bra, your mom will understand and take you shopping for one soon.
my mom did. the reason why she hasnt asked you is because she is thinking that you will think she thinks you need one and all sorts of stuff.
i was embarassed to ask my mom too, but she was fine about it.
now i cant see why i worried!!!!!!! lol
your mom wont be embarrased, theres no need for you to be.
Are you sure it looks fine? I have been wearing a real bra since 11 or 12 and I by no means have large breast. Email her if you have to. You’ll probably wear a 32 A or AA from La Zensa or Victoria Secret becuase 30 is tiny and they don’t make a 31. Just say we your at the store “All my friends have bra and I don’t. Can we go look at real bra?”. If she say no get her to give you at least 5 reason why not. If shes anything like my mom she’ll be cool with and happy.
ETA: Or like the others said go shopping with a friend.
Good luck!
You need a bra immediately, I started wearing a bra when I was twelve, I didn’t need one but everyone wore one in secondary school. I’m fourteen now and can’t live without my padded, push-up bra (yes I have basically no chest)!
Get a tape measure, you need to measure three parts of your chest, not just underneath your boobs.
Use this website to help:http://www.85b.org/bra_calc.php
It tells you where to measure, measure yourself with no top or tank top bras on. Enter your measurements and it will tell you your size.
Go shopping with friends, me and my friends go shopping together for this type of stuff – only get your right size or you can get a sore back etc.
If you don’t start wearing a bra you are risking a saggy chest when you’re older and a really sore back if you’re pretty big.
I promise not to judge you and I will help as best I can so if you want to e-mail me you can on
Morgan_crawford@yahoo.com
Hope I helped!
Aw- poor you! That is a awkward and embarrassing time! Look, your mom will be taking you back to school shopping soon im sure. While you are there just nonchalantly head towards the bras and panties. Maybe go looking for under ware. Then keep glancing at the bras when you know your mom is looking at you. Or maybe even pick one up and start looking at it. I can guarantee your mom will pick up on it and handel the situation. Im sure she hasn’t brought it up yet b/c she is a little embarrassed too. If you dont want to do this round about way, then have a older friend take you to lk JCPenny, they have free bra measurerers that will tell you the size you need, and even help you pick one out.
You should start by telling your mom. It’s a completely natural thing and most girls wear them. Just casually walk up to her and say something like “Mom, I think i’m going to need a bra for when school starts”. She should be totally cool with it. Try to think about it as being apart of being female and be proud of it. How do you think us girls walk into a store by ourselves and buy nothing but a big box of tampons? Talk about awkward:) Just remember, we all have to go through the awkward stuff in life and it ends up being okay in the end. Anyways, the next step after that would be to go to JC Penny or a place like it and get measured. They do it for free and all you have to do is go to the bra section with your mom and ask the lady in the department for a bra measurement. If you just wear a t-shirt, you wont even have to take off your shirt. Then she will quickly measure you, tell you your size and you can go shopping either in that store or in a cheaper one if you want. Its important to get measured and get the right size and you will have to keep coming back as you grow. 31 inches is completely normal for your age. Everyone grows differently and at different times and you are going to grow more as you get older. And if you want to look a little bigger, you could go with a padded bra. They are usually more comfortable anyways:) Hope I could help!
Bra’s aren’t cool…… I don’t really see why some girls think that.
The only reason why you should wear a bra is if you “need” it. If you “need” a bra, you should tell your mom.